I recently had a 40+ yr old man say to me, "the 1st year that U date a person is their representative". I thought that was hilarious but could hold some truth. After I finished laughing I asked him if I could use this in my blog. So here we go.
To some degree, I agree with his statement. I believe that God can and will do a perfect and complete quick work in Him for His will His plan and His glory in your life when bringing people together. What can take some a year to get to see and know and be confident - assured of God's will, can take others a few months; one or two seasons. If you are a Believer and trying to wait right, I don't recommend much more than that else you find yourself on the altar repenting. I also believe "complete perfect quick works" are reserved for mature self aware people. Where both parties know themselves and are honest with themselves and willing to be honest with their future spouse; good, bad, indifferent, struggles, strengths, weakness, etc. However, for most, it is important to date someone; and that could include engagement - thru the seasons of a year. Why? Often a person's personality - nature or natural can correlate to the seasons of spirit. I often say, "oh what a difference a year can make." Meaning, in most situations, since we are not able to experience the person we are dating thru every season or every challenge of their life (unless we date them "forever") - U can use the seasons of nature to give U a pretty good indication of how they will respond to life situation as U date thru Winter, Spring, Summer and Fall - naturally and or spiritually.
We ask that the real you - them please stand up and come forth. Consider the following and note - all seasons have both a spiritual and natural component to them:
Season descriptions
To some degree, I agree with his statement. I believe that God can and will do a perfect and complete quick work in Him for His will His plan and His glory in your life when bringing people together. What can take some a year to get to see and know and be confident - assured of God's will, can take others a few months; one or two seasons. If you are a Believer and trying to wait right, I don't recommend much more than that else you find yourself on the altar repenting. I also believe "complete perfect quick works" are reserved for mature self aware people. Where both parties know themselves and are honest with themselves and willing to be honest with their future spouse; good, bad, indifferent, struggles, strengths, weakness, etc. However, for most, it is important to date someone; and that could include engagement - thru the seasons of a year. Why? Often a person's personality - nature or natural can correlate to the seasons of spirit. I often say, "oh what a difference a year can make." Meaning, in most situations, since we are not able to experience the person we are dating thru every season or every challenge of their life (unless we date them "forever") - U can use the seasons of nature to give U a pretty good indication of how they will respond to life situation as U date thru Winter, Spring, Summer and Fall - naturally and or spiritually.
We ask that the real you - them please stand up and come forth. Consider the following and note - all seasons have both a spiritual and natural component to them:
Season descriptions
- Winter: things are dead/gone, cold, stiff, depression, covered up, layer, a sense of lifelessness, no progress, slow movement, patterns, coming in early, days shorter, idle time, inside more, clingy/attached.
- Spring: things are coming alive, hope, excitement, possibility, planting (care), irritation (allergy season), beauty, things are sprouting up around you everywhere, opportunity, focus changes, dream, undetermined/inconsistent weather, rainy days, time change.
- Summer: things are in full bloom, love, alive, much to do, productive, prosperity, hot, fun, friends/family, more time, out more (more time), more exposure, less covered/hidden.
- Fall: things are starting to die, days are getting shorter, nights are coming sooner, some see beauty others not, time change.
Comparison - Apply
1. Winter: show U how he or she will/does handle: loss, cold/dark days-rejection, death to an idea/dream/vision, having to wait, be patient, not being able to do (as much), non-productive times, anxiety, plan/prepare for next season, saver/investor, set in ways, are they evasive, heart issues/concerns, questions that cause them to open up.
2. Spring: shows U how he or she will/does handle: distractions (beauty, multiple opportunities), balance w/ so much available to them/to do, inconsistencies, do they finish what started, pursuing dreams (able to dream again after a loss), sad/low times, frustration, open to change, needy, demonstration of care/respect.
3. Summer: show U how he or she will/does handle: hot under the skin annoying situations, good times (do they go over-board or even keel), prioritizes time, freedom, more time/timeliness, selfishness, friends/family, love (matters of heart), commitment/follow-thru (full bloom), and possessive.
4. Fall: show U how he or she will/does handle: difference of opinion, optimist or pessimist, losing time, flexible to change, confusion, let things go, argumentative
Questions to consider
What season are U in your life? What season is your significant other in? How do U and they handle these seasons? Whatever season they/you are in right now, what are you seeing? If this season never changes, can U live with and be with what you see, feel, experience, know for the rest of your life?
Wouldn't this be a great evening discussion - putting it in this context may take the pressure of sharing where U - each of you are. As you traverse through each season and experience, ask God to show you them and you. Do not exchange the truth for a lie just to have someone?
*Unless otherwise noted, all thoughts, expressions, quotes, etc. are the original words/creation/conceptions of #Dr. Tuesday.
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